A couple of weeks ago, a small group of Yoginis were discussing meditation.
"I'm so bad at meditating."
"We all struggle with thoughts going through our heads."
"I try, but it just doesn't work."
"Can anyone really meditate?"
"It's hard."
Interestingly, so many people seem to be under the impression that if you think, you're not meditating. This is not necessarily true.
There are various forms and definitions of meditation. On one extreme the mind is to be completely void of any and all thought--good luck with that! The other extreme is to daydream and "go to your happy place." This is not truly meditating, but some would disagree with me.
Visualizations and meditations are different. Yet, many of us, me included, frequently use the word meditation to describe what is technically visualization. In the end, the word is not as important as what benefits you find from the method you use.
Posture is another element up for debate. When working with a disciple of Swami Rama, she recommending sitting in full lotus (padmasana) on an animal skin and a prayer shawl wrapped around the meditator. The skin and shawl were intended to keep the energy (Prana) inside the body. On the other hand, Erich Schiffmann once suggested meditating in a hammock under the shade of a tree in the summer time. Thich Nhat Hahn talks about mindfulness throughout the day, which in my opinion is like bringing meditation to every day life.
So what does meditation "do"? What are its benefits?
On a physical level, the heart rate slows, the breath becomes deeper without effort, and the whole body copes with stress in a healthier manner.
Mentally, you develop the ability to focus. With that said, if your mind is scattered all over the place like a messy house, then meditation will not immediately bring complete calm. Just as when you clean your home, it's a process to create order and structure within the chaos and disarray. If you continue to pick up, over time the house will become a bit cleaner and eventually, with discipline, it will be a more serene environment. The mind is like this too. The more you practice focusing your thoughts; over time they will begin to work for you and not against you. You will begin to choose what thoughts you'd like to maintain and what thoughts do not serve you.
Like magic, many people take up meditation to ease pain, be it physical or emotional, yet the spiritual benefits sneak in. With proper guidance and growing awareness, you begin to know you are not your thoughts or emotions. As you gain the ability to separate from thoughts, you experience oneness with others and sense a connection with the universe.
What's cool about this is that you are no longer controlled by negative things your parents or past lovers might have said about you. You are no longer sucked into the false belief that you are not good enough. Calm in what appears to be craziness is easier--not always, but it's a practice. Be patient.
Finally, what is "proper" meditation? Whatever works for you. Does repeating a mantra just become a drone in the back of your head while your thoughts take over? Does looking at a candle flame strain your eyes to the point of strong discomfort? If so, these techniques might not be best for you. On the other hand, if lying in a hammock brings you into complete awareness of the stillness in the ground below you and the sky above. If you feel the breeze on your skin and the aroma in the air sooths your soul, then you just might have stumbled upon a wonderful technique.
A teacher can help you to find a method that works, or you might find it on your own. My suggestion: Be very leery of anyone that tells you they have all the answers for how you should meditate. Only you will know when it's right. And be flexible with yourself. For years, I benefited from a longer early morning seated meditation. Now two brief periods a day with various focus objects each time work best for me.
Enjoy the practice. Don't beat yourself up. There is no "wrong" way; just sitting in silence for even a few minutes while watching your breath can have a positive impact on your life.
Love Much,
Kris
www.TotalHealthYoga.com
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Today is the first day of the rest of your life!
Tuesday, April 1, 2008
Thursday, March 27, 2008
Living in the Now
A few weeks ago, I took up knitting. To begin this adventure I collected about a dozen books from the local library and stopped by the craft store to purchase needles and yarn.
Sitting by the fireside, I pulled out the books thinking this would be easy. Within the first few minutes I realized that learn to knit via a book wasn't working very well for me.
My sons recommended YouTube. This proved to be a great idea. Mrs. Moskowitz's videos were very helpful. However, there was no mention of the importance of taking the yarn from inside the skein! Needless-to-say, I started knitting with the yarn on the outside.
Half-way into my first scarf, the yarn began to knot up; which I now know comes from starting on the outside of the skein. Information I could have used earlier.
As I'm struggling to de-tangle the messed up yarn, with only one end to work with, I found myself sighing (a lot). Finally Mike, my partner, came to help, but it seemed futile. He was patient; I was not. All I wanted was to knit, and all this de-knotting was getting in the way.
Finally, I took a break from this frustrating experience and read some Eckhart Tolle. As fate would have it, Echkart talked about three hindering viewpoint regarding time. That is, thoughts that take us out of the now. They were:
1. Viewing time as a means to an end (like the yarn incident).
2. Seeing time as an obstacle (such as when waiting for someone or something).
3. Time is the enemy resulting in complaining about whatever you are doing or your surroundings.
This may not be new news, but I needed to hear it at that moment. I returned to the project of detangling the yarn with a new perspective; instead of straightening out the yarn just to continue knitting, I considered the enjoyment of creating order out of chaos, the sight of the beautiful colors in the yarn, and the texture at my fingertips. Suddenly this "chore" became almost fun (I didn't say fun; almost fun). Without all the resistance I had brought to the table earlier, this time I was able to progress at a more rapid rate. Within 10 minutes the whole job was complete.
It's this attitude of accepting the current moment and being in it that our Yoga practice enhances. During a practice, we grow in awareness of the body, breath, and thoughts. This week in the classes I guide, we'll focus on this very idea.
Stop periodically and ask these three questions:
1. What is my body experiencing? Scan from the crown of the head to the tips of the toes. Is there tightness or pinching? Can you move or adjust in some way to create more comfort and expanse?
2. What is my breath like? Be the observer; do NOT judge, rather notice. Is the breath moving from the upper chest all the way to the navel? Is the breath free to fill the front, back, and side body?
3. What are the thoughts running through my head? Take a few moments to be still and just pay attention to what is going on in your head. Do not "run away" with the thoughts; rather watch them. As if the thoughts are a play and you are in the audience. You are not the thoughts; you are an observer of them.
Love Much,
Kris
www.TotalHealthYoga.com
www.TotalHealthYogaClasses.Blogspot.com
Today is the first day of the rest of your life!
Sitting by the fireside, I pulled out the books thinking this would be easy. Within the first few minutes I realized that learn to knit via a book wasn't working very well for me.
My sons recommended YouTube. This proved to be a great idea. Mrs. Moskowitz's videos were very helpful. However, there was no mention of the importance of taking the yarn from inside the skein! Needless-to-say, I started knitting with the yarn on the outside.
Half-way into my first scarf, the yarn began to knot up; which I now know comes from starting on the outside of the skein. Information I could have used earlier.
As I'm struggling to de-tangle the messed up yarn, with only one end to work with, I found myself sighing (a lot). Finally Mike, my partner, came to help, but it seemed futile. He was patient; I was not. All I wanted was to knit, and all this de-knotting was getting in the way.
Finally, I took a break from this frustrating experience and read some Eckhart Tolle. As fate would have it, Echkart talked about three hindering viewpoint regarding time. That is, thoughts that take us out of the now. They were:
1. Viewing time as a means to an end (like the yarn incident).
2. Seeing time as an obstacle (such as when waiting for someone or something).
3. Time is the enemy resulting in complaining about whatever you are doing or your surroundings.
This may not be new news, but I needed to hear it at that moment. I returned to the project of detangling the yarn with a new perspective; instead of straightening out the yarn just to continue knitting, I considered the enjoyment of creating order out of chaos, the sight of the beautiful colors in the yarn, and the texture at my fingertips. Suddenly this "chore" became almost fun (I didn't say fun; almost fun). Without all the resistance I had brought to the table earlier, this time I was able to progress at a more rapid rate. Within 10 minutes the whole job was complete.
It's this attitude of accepting the current moment and being in it that our Yoga practice enhances. During a practice, we grow in awareness of the body, breath, and thoughts. This week in the classes I guide, we'll focus on this very idea.
Stop periodically and ask these three questions:
1. What is my body experiencing? Scan from the crown of the head to the tips of the toes. Is there tightness or pinching? Can you move or adjust in some way to create more comfort and expanse?
2. What is my breath like? Be the observer; do NOT judge, rather notice. Is the breath moving from the upper chest all the way to the navel? Is the breath free to fill the front, back, and side body?
3. What are the thoughts running through my head? Take a few moments to be still and just pay attention to what is going on in your head. Do not "run away" with the thoughts; rather watch them. As if the thoughts are a play and you are in the audience. You are not the thoughts; you are an observer of them.
Love Much,
Kris
www.TotalHealthYoga.com
www.TotalHealthYogaClasses.Blogspot.com
Today is the first day of the rest of your life!
Friday, March 21, 2008
The Sounds of Silence
Communicating is a wonderful thing. Sometimes a phone call to a dear friend is just what the doctor ordered. Anyone that knows me, knows that I love to talk--maybe a bit too much!
At 43 years of age, I'm realizing the need to be quiet more. To listen. It's only when I'm silent that I stay fully aware of the moment and am truly open to receive what is around me.
Inspired by Eckhart Tolle, Deepak Chopra, Anodea Judith, and Dr. Wayne Dyer, I have been and will be blogging less frequently than in the past. Perhaps this will change one day, but at this phase in my life I want to hear more clearly; frankly I feel pretty sure that it's time to "just shut up" for a while. Less opinions and more openness. Less outpouring and more incoming.
Sounds like perimenopause talking; regardless here are some thoughts on silence to ponder:
Love Much,
Kris
www.TotalHealthYoga.com
www.TotalHealthYogaClasses.Blogspot.com
Today is the first day of the rest of your life!
At 43 years of age, I'm realizing the need to be quiet more. To listen. It's only when I'm silent that I stay fully aware of the moment and am truly open to receive what is around me.
Inspired by Eckhart Tolle, Deepak Chopra, Anodea Judith, and Dr. Wayne Dyer, I have been and will be blogging less frequently than in the past. Perhaps this will change one day, but at this phase in my life I want to hear more clearly; frankly I feel pretty sure that it's time to "just shut up" for a while. Less opinions and more openness. Less outpouring and more incoming.
Less thinking and more being!
Sounds like perimenopause talking; regardless here are some thoughts on silence to ponder:
Silence in the doorway to the soul.
“We need to find God, and he cannot be found in noise and restlessness. God is the friend of silence. See how nature - trees, flowers, grass- grows in silence; see the stars, the moon and the sun, how they move in silence... We need silence to be able to touch souls.” ~ Mother Teresa
“Silence is a source of great strength.” ~ Lao Tzu
“See how nature - trees, flowers, grass - grows in silence; see the stars, the moon and the sun, how they move in silence...we need silence to be able to touch souls.” ~ Mother Teresa
"It has been said God’s one and only voice is silence. No matter how you attempt to slice it up, silence is always silence. This indivisible root source of oneness is where the act of creation originates. " ~ Dr. Wayne Dyer
Love Much,
Kris
www.TotalHealthYoga.com
www.TotalHealthYogaClasses.Blogspot.com
Today is the first day of the rest of your life!
Wednesday, March 19, 2008
Benefits of Yoga - The Twist
Monday morning making small decisions seemed difficult. A close relative was undergoing heart surgery and had just recovered from carotid surgery on Saturday. Overall, I'm blessed to stay pretty positive and faithful in challenging times. My belief is that things happen for reasons.
As Oriah says (something like this), "The best you can do is be there for people. There are not always words or cures. Maintaining a high vibration is the most valuable gift you can give."
However, come Monday my steadiness was hidden behind a muddle of cloudy thoughts and feelings. Twisting is one of the best ways I know to return to center and find balance in life. Here's a portion of the practice that brought me so much balance and that we're working on in classes this week:
Start with equal breathing, either 1:1 (inhale is the same length as the exhale) or 1:1:1:1 (pauses are the same length as the inhales and exhales).
Warm up the body with some joint rotations and a sun salutation.
Follow with twisting sun salutation. Use your imagination; here's one suggestion:
Start in Mountain and lift your heels. Keeping the heels lifted exhale and twist to the right. Inhale to center. Exhale to left. Continue alternating sides a few times.
Exhale into standing forward bend and hold the outside of the left ankle (or leg) with the right hand. Inhale, both hands on the ground. Exhale, left hand to outer right ankle/leg. Repeat a few times.
Exhale to a lunge with the left leg back and left knee on the earth. Inhale hands to front knee and on an out breath twist to the right. If you're more flexible, take the left elbow to the outside of the right knee. Stay for 2-4 breaths. Release the twist on an inhale.
Exhale both legs to plank. More experienced Yogis may take side plank on each side.
Laying on the front body, inhale to cobra and exhale as you look over a shoulder. Each in breath look forward and each out breath alternate shoulders to look over. Repeat several times.
If you need a break, come into child's pose until your breath is steady and even.
Exhale to twisting down dog on both sides. (From down dog, walk your right hand a bit to the left and lift the left hand off the mat--be certain that you feel strong and integrated in the right shoulder. Reach the left hand to the outer right leg/ankle. Let your head dangle and release the neck.)
Exhale to lunge with the left leg forward. Just like before, drop the right knee to the ground and hands onto the left leg. Inhale lengthen in the spine like a growing lotus flower and exhale as you twist to the left. Stay for 2-4 breaths. Inhale to release the twist.
Exhale to standing forward fold. Take the twist here as described above.
Next exhale come through a squat and lie on your back.
Rest here.
Enjoy the wonderful balanced sensations from the miracle of twists!
Kris
http://www.totalhealthyoga.com/
http://www.totalhealthyogaclasses.blogspot.com/
Today is the first day of the rest of your life!
As Oriah says (something like this), "The best you can do is be there for people. There are not always words or cures. Maintaining a high vibration is the most valuable gift you can give."
However, come Monday my steadiness was hidden behind a muddle of cloudy thoughts and feelings. Twisting is one of the best ways I know to return to center and find balance in life. Here's a portion of the practice that brought me so much balance and that we're working on in classes this week:
Start with equal breathing, either 1:1 (inhale is the same length as the exhale) or 1:1:1:1 (pauses are the same length as the inhales and exhales).
Warm up the body with some joint rotations and a sun salutation.
Follow with twisting sun salutation. Use your imagination; here's one suggestion:
Start in Mountain and lift your heels. Keeping the heels lifted exhale and twist to the right. Inhale to center. Exhale to left. Continue alternating sides a few times.
Exhale into standing forward bend and hold the outside of the left ankle (or leg) with the right hand. Inhale, both hands on the ground. Exhale, left hand to outer right ankle/leg. Repeat a few times.
Exhale to a lunge with the left leg back and left knee on the earth. Inhale hands to front knee and on an out breath twist to the right. If you're more flexible, take the left elbow to the outside of the right knee. Stay for 2-4 breaths. Release the twist on an inhale.
Exhale both legs to plank. More experienced Yogis may take side plank on each side.
Laying on the front body, inhale to cobra and exhale as you look over a shoulder. Each in breath look forward and each out breath alternate shoulders to look over. Repeat several times.
If you need a break, come into child's pose until your breath is steady and even.
Exhale to twisting down dog on both sides. (From down dog, walk your right hand a bit to the left and lift the left hand off the mat--be certain that you feel strong and integrated in the right shoulder. Reach the left hand to the outer right leg/ankle. Let your head dangle and release the neck.)
Exhale to lunge with the left leg forward. Just like before, drop the right knee to the ground and hands onto the left leg. Inhale lengthen in the spine like a growing lotus flower and exhale as you twist to the left. Stay for 2-4 breaths. Inhale to release the twist.
Exhale to standing forward fold. Take the twist here as described above.
Next exhale come through a squat and lie on your back.
Rest here.
Enjoy the wonderful balanced sensations from the miracle of twists!
Kris
http://www.totalhealthyoga.com/
http://www.totalhealthyogaclasses.blogspot.com/
Today is the first day of the rest of your life!
Friday, March 14, 2008
How to Cook Steel Cut Oats
(Sorry, no picture. I was too busy eating!)
Check out this delicious recipe for steel cut oats. Before you run the other way, if you like rolled oats, trust me, this is worth a try. Years ago, I actually tossed a large container of steel cuts oats because they took to ridiculously long to cook and the taste was so-so. Not anymore!
The trick is the crock pot. No more stirring and cleaning up the oven after the inevitable boiling over when you're trying to get the oats to soften enough for eating.
Trick number two, is the delicious added ingredients. Thanks to Stephanie Gallagher for this fabulous recipe. (I've made a few changes below.)
Oh So Good Oats
2 cups steel cut oats
8 cups water
2 tsp. cinnamon
1/2 cup brown sugar
1 Tbs. vanilla
2 apples, diced
1 cup raisins
1 cup sliced bananas
1/2 cup chopped walnuts (Toasted walnuts are extra yummy, but watch them closely to prevent burning.... Hum, wonder how I figured that out.)
Add the first 7 ingredients (oats to raisins) in a crock pot. Stir. Set the pot on low and go to sleep. (This is what makes it so cool!) Wake up and brush your teeth. Shower, etc. Go to kitchen and enjoy a wonderful bowl of steel cut oats with some banana and chopped walnuts sprinkled on top.
Check out this delicious recipe for steel cut oats. Before you run the other way, if you like rolled oats, trust me, this is worth a try. Years ago, I actually tossed a large container of steel cuts oats because they took to ridiculously long to cook and the taste was so-so. Not anymore!
The trick is the crock pot. No more stirring and cleaning up the oven after the inevitable boiling over when you're trying to get the oats to soften enough for eating.
Trick number two, is the delicious added ingredients. Thanks to Stephanie Gallagher for this fabulous recipe. (I've made a few changes below.)
Oh So Good Oats
2 cups steel cut oats
8 cups water
2 tsp. cinnamon
1/2 cup brown sugar
1 Tbs. vanilla
2 apples, diced
1 cup raisins
1 cup sliced bananas
1/2 cup chopped walnuts (Toasted walnuts are extra yummy, but watch them closely to prevent burning.... Hum, wonder how I figured that out.)
Add the first 7 ingredients (oats to raisins) in a crock pot. Stir. Set the pot on low and go to sleep. (This is what makes it so cool!) Wake up and brush your teeth. Shower, etc. Go to kitchen and enjoy a wonderful bowl of steel cut oats with some banana and chopped walnuts sprinkled on top.
Love Much,
Kris
http://www.totalhealthyoga.com/
http://www.totalhealthyogaclasses.blogspot.com/
Today is the first day of the rest of your life!
Monday, March 10, 2008
Anger Management Tips
When BJ (my firstborn) was an infant, there were days that I would call Scott (BJ's dad) and tell him to get home soon or I just might throw BJ through the window. (Don't worry, I never followed through!)
Looking back, and even at the time, I was filled with guilt and shame at not being able to calm this baby. He cried most of the time and suffered from chronic 3d degree colic. It was over four years before we actually slept through the night.
At the time, Yoga and meditation were foreign to me. I led a relatively unconscious life. I fully identified with my thoughts and emotions--not realizing they were not who I am.
Today, I believe that I would handle a challenging baby very differently. And I did handle my second child with more patience and centering.
What do you do when your emotions get the better of you? As one woman put on her blog, "What do you do when you can't take it any more?" The suggestions this blogger suggested in her poll are as follows:
I leave the situation.
I talk about it to whomever will listen.
I seek counseling.
I just suck it in and accept it.
I get it worked out on the spot.
I'd like to suggest some other ideas. In order to live a conscious life, which is truly what Yoga is about, consider other options to address feelings that storm in and want to take over:
Lie in savasana (on your back) and watch the feelings as a curiosity. See them for the energy that they are; not who you are but rather an energy passing through. Allow the feelings to pass and flow.
Meditate and find yourself re-connecting to Source. When you act from this place of peace, you separate yourSelf from emotions and act with more compassion and love.
Take a warm bath with the focus to renew. Use candles and soft music.
Take a walk in nature. If you stay present and notice the trees, birds, dirt, clouds, and sky, then you will begin to re-connect with who you really are.
In the throw of things, so to speak, stay aware. Resist getting pulled into your emotions. Watch them. Witness them. But always remember, you are not your feelings.
This all comes easier with a strong meditation practice. One might compare it to attempting to sail for the first time during a turbulent storm at sea. Odds are you'll sink. However, if you've been sailing in smooth waters and perhaps choppy ones, when the big storm comes you'll stand a good chance of surviving.
Love Much,
Kris
www.TotalHealthYoga.com
www.TotalHealthYogaClasses.Blogspot.com
Today is the first day of the rest of your life!
Looking back, and even at the time, I was filled with guilt and shame at not being able to calm this baby. He cried most of the time and suffered from chronic 3d degree colic. It was over four years before we actually slept through the night.
At the time, Yoga and meditation were foreign to me. I led a relatively unconscious life. I fully identified with my thoughts and emotions--not realizing they were not who I am.
Today, I believe that I would handle a challenging baby very differently. And I did handle my second child with more patience and centering.
What do you do when your emotions get the better of you? As one woman put on her blog, "What do you do when you can't take it any more?" The suggestions this blogger suggested in her poll are as follows:
I leave the situation.
I talk about it to whomever will listen.
I seek counseling.
I just suck it in and accept it.
I get it worked out on the spot.
I'd like to suggest some other ideas. In order to live a conscious life, which is truly what Yoga is about, consider other options to address feelings that storm in and want to take over:
Lie in savasana (on your back) and watch the feelings as a curiosity. See them for the energy that they are; not who you are but rather an energy passing through. Allow the feelings to pass and flow.
Meditate and find yourself re-connecting to Source. When you act from this place of peace, you separate yourSelf from emotions and act with more compassion and love.
Take a warm bath with the focus to renew. Use candles and soft music.
Take a walk in nature. If you stay present and notice the trees, birds, dirt, clouds, and sky, then you will begin to re-connect with who you really are.
In the throw of things, so to speak, stay aware. Resist getting pulled into your emotions. Watch them. Witness them. But always remember, you are not your feelings.
This all comes easier with a strong meditation practice. One might compare it to attempting to sail for the first time during a turbulent storm at sea. Odds are you'll sink. However, if you've been sailing in smooth waters and perhaps choppy ones, when the big storm comes you'll stand a good chance of surviving.
Love Much,
Kris
www.TotalHealthYoga.com
www.TotalHealthYogaClasses.Blogspot.com
Today is the first day of the rest of your life!
Wednesday, March 5, 2008
Pranayama Techniques - CD Review
Have you ever wondered if your breathing "right" in your Yoga class? Some teachers encourage the Ujjayi (victorious uprising or breath of sound) to be loud enough to be heard across the room; others suggest maintaining a low gentle hum.
In Doug Keller's Pranayama CD, his soothing and gentle voice leads you into a state of deep relaxation and awareness by using the breath. There are 8 tracks on this CD taking about one hour. You can use any of these tracks on their own or together.
The CD opens with a mantra and then gets into the Ujjayi breath. From there Doug teaches a modified Viloma (interrupted breath) and 3-part breathing. Finally, he incorporated Kumbhaka (breath retention).
Mr. Keller's explainations are deeply rooted in philosophy. His poetic, yet practical, instructions offer the perfect means to deepening your pranayama practice. If you have never practiced pranayama, this CD is a wonderful way to start. At the same time, after years of devotion to pranayama, Doug enlightened me to many new aspects of this fine art.
Love Much,
Kris
http://www.totalhealthyoga.com/
http://www.totalhealthyogaclasses.blogspot.com/
Today is the first day of the rest of your life!
Tuesday, March 4, 2008
Inspirational Story
A dear and wonderful friend just emailed this to me. Perhaps you've seen it before, but if you're like me a reminder is always nice.
John is the kind of guy you love to hate. He is always in a good mood and always has something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, "If I were any better, I would be twins!"
He was a natural motivator.
If an employee was having a bad day, John was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.
Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up and asked him, "I don't get it! You can't be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?" He replied, "Each morning I wake up and say to myself, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or...you can choose to be in a bad mood. I choose to be in a good mood. Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or...I can choose to learn from it. I choose to learn from it. Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or...I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the positive side of life. "
"Yeah, right, it's not that easy," I protested.
"Yes, it is," he said. "Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people affect your mood. You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. The bottom line: It's your choice how you live your life."
I reflected on what he said. Soon hereafter, I left the Tower Industry to start my own business. We lost touch, but I often thought about him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it.
Several years later, I heard that he was involved in a serious accident, falling some 60 feet from a communications tower.
After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, he was released from the hospital with rods placed in his back.
I saw him about six months after the accident. When I asked him how he was, he replied, "If I were any better, I'd be twins...Wanna see my scars?"
I declined to see his wounds, but I did ask him what had gone through his mind as the accident took place. "The first thing that went through my mind was the well-being of my soon-to-be born daughter," he replied. "Then, as I lay on the ground, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live or...I could choose to die. I chose to live."
"Weren't you scared? Did you lose consciousness?" I asked.
He continued, "...the paramedics were great. They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the ER and I saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I read 'he's a dead man'. I knew I needed to take action."
"What did you do?" I asked.
"Well, there was a big burly nurse shouting questions at me," said John. "She asked if I was allergic to anything 'Yes, I replied.' The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply. I took a deep breath and yelled, 'Gravity'" Over their laughter, I told them, "I am choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead."
He lived, thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude...I learned from him that every day we have the choice to live fully. Attitude, after all, is everything.
"Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own." Matthew 6:34.
Love Much,
Kris
http://www.totalhealthyoga.com/
http://www.totalhealthyogaclasses.blogspot.com/
Today is the first day of the rest of your life!
John is the kind of guy you love to hate. He is always in a good mood and always has something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, "If I were any better, I would be twins!"
He was a natural motivator.
If an employee was having a bad day, John was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.
Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up and asked him, "I don't get it! You can't be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?" He replied, "Each morning I wake up and say to myself, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or...you can choose to be in a bad mood. I choose to be in a good mood. Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or...I can choose to learn from it. I choose to learn from it. Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or...I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the positive side of life. "
"Yeah, right, it's not that easy," I protested.
"Yes, it is," he said. "Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people affect your mood. You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. The bottom line: It's your choice how you live your life."
I reflected on what he said. Soon hereafter, I left the Tower Industry to start my own business. We lost touch, but I often thought about him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it.
Several years later, I heard that he was involved in a serious accident, falling some 60 feet from a communications tower.
After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, he was released from the hospital with rods placed in his back.
I saw him about six months after the accident. When I asked him how he was, he replied, "If I were any better, I'd be twins...Wanna see my scars?"
I declined to see his wounds, but I did ask him what had gone through his mind as the accident took place. "The first thing that went through my mind was the well-being of my soon-to-be born daughter," he replied. "Then, as I lay on the ground, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live or...I could choose to die. I chose to live."
"Weren't you scared? Did you lose consciousness?" I asked.
He continued, "...the paramedics were great. They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the ER and I saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I read 'he's a dead man'. I knew I needed to take action."
"What did you do?" I asked.
"Well, there was a big burly nurse shouting questions at me," said John. "She asked if I was allergic to anything 'Yes, I replied.' The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply. I took a deep breath and yelled, 'Gravity'" Over their laughter, I told them, "I am choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead."
He lived, thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude...I learned from him that every day we have the choice to live fully. Attitude, after all, is everything.
"Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own." Matthew 6:34.
Love Much,
Kris
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Thursday, February 28, 2008
To Do Lists
What's worse than throwing up? Worse than diarrhea that feels like Niagara Falls of the colon? How about both at the same time?
That pretty much describes my weekend a couple of weeks ago. After spending 48+ hours in bed (and in the bathroom), I was 5 pounds lighter and had a "to do" list that had grown to monstrous proportions.
Not only were there emails, phone calls, and bills coming in, but ideas constantly floated in my head as I lay on my bed in this half-dream state. I found myself jotting these thoughts down on dozens of post-its which are now all over my desk and bedroom floor.
So, what do you do when your inbox is overwhelming? My first impulse is to go out for a walk, coffee, tea, or anywhere but having to deal with the daunting task of an impossibly large inbox. This doesn't get anything done, but at least my mind can relax.
Can you help with this? What do you do when snail mail, email, phone calls, requests or ideas from friends, and inspirations from your own mind pour in at a rate much too fast for you to keep up with? When there are literally a hundred plus ideas to be carried out, how do you determine which ones to pursue and scarier which ones to let go?
I find that frequently there are so many ideas or suggestions that instead of letting them go, I become paralyzed and unable to fully follow through on any of them.
This is not how I want to live my life and I turn to you for ideas on handling ideas. Ironic, I know.
Any suggestions regarding shortening that inbox so that the real gems can become reality are much appreciated.
Love Much,
Kris
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That pretty much describes my weekend a couple of weeks ago. After spending 48+ hours in bed (and in the bathroom), I was 5 pounds lighter and had a "to do" list that had grown to monstrous proportions.
Not only were there emails, phone calls, and bills coming in, but ideas constantly floated in my head as I lay on my bed in this half-dream state. I found myself jotting these thoughts down on dozens of post-its which are now all over my desk and bedroom floor.
So, what do you do when your inbox is overwhelming? My first impulse is to go out for a walk, coffee, tea, or anywhere but having to deal with the daunting task of an impossibly large inbox. This doesn't get anything done, but at least my mind can relax.
Can you help with this? What do you do when snail mail, email, phone calls, requests or ideas from friends, and inspirations from your own mind pour in at a rate much too fast for you to keep up with? When there are literally a hundred plus ideas to be carried out, how do you determine which ones to pursue and scarier which ones to let go?
I find that frequently there are so many ideas or suggestions that instead of letting them go, I become paralyzed and unable to fully follow through on any of them.
This is not how I want to live my life and I turn to you for ideas on handling ideas. Ironic, I know.
Any suggestions regarding shortening that inbox so that the real gems can become reality are much appreciated.
Love Much,
Kris
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http://www.totalhealthyogaclasses.blogspot.com/
Today is the first day of the rest of your life!
Tuesday, February 26, 2008
Exercises for carpel tunnel syndrome
If you suffer from carpel tunnel in the wrists, Yoga can be a blessing or a curse. Avoid hand balances and keep the base of the wrist lifted in poses such as downward facing dog (adho mukha svanasana). If it's not possible to lift the wrist base, then just keep the hands off the floor--no, not a down dog with no hands! Rather, no down dogs at all until you build the strength to lift the wrists.
Following are some great poses to help with this syndrome. Remember, I am not a doctor and don't claim to be one, please verify with your doctor prior to any exercise program.
1. Take a comfortable seat and bring the hands into anjali mudra. Keeping the fingers together, slowly draw the base of the wrists slightly away from one another. Hold for at least 6 long steady breaths.
2. Come into staff (dandasana) with the palms on the ground. If your arms are shorter, then place the palms on blocks. Stay about 6 breaths.
3. Stand in mountain (tadasana). On inhale lift the arms overhead, as if your arms are hands on a clock and they are pointing at the 11 and the 1. On exhale, bring the arms back down to your sides. Do this 6 times.
4. Standing or sitting bring the arms out straight in front of you. Palms facing down, widen the fingers as if you are wrapping your hand around a basketball. Hold for 6 breaths. Keep the shoulders relaxed.
5. With the arms still in front of you, inhale and bring the fingers together and point them at the sky; exhale making gentle fists and face the knuckles downward. Repeat 6 times. On the 6th time, pause in each of these positions for a couple of breaths.
6. Rise the arms over head and interlock the fingers; palms facing away from you. Hold for about 6 breaths.
7. Come into eagle pose (garudasana). If balance is preventing the arm position, then skip the legs and focus on the arms today. Hold each side for 2-3 breaths.
8. Take half forward fold (ardha uttanasana) at the wall for 6 breaths. Keep the fingers, especially the root of the index finger and thumb, against the wall as the center of the wrist base is lifted.
9. With or without the legs move the arms with relaxation into warrior I and then warrior II (virabhadrasana I & II). Move back and forth with your breath about 6 times. Pause the last time in each position for 2-3 breaths.
10. Downward facing dog (adho mukha svanasana) on a chair for 2-6 breaths. As before, keep a lift in the carpel tunnel (the center of the wrist base).
11. Sit on a chair and twist from side to side. Twist as you exhale and release the twist on inhale. Repeat on one side 6 times and then 6 times on the other side.
12. Take anjali mudra behind your back.
13. Relax in a supine position (savasana) for at least 10 minutes.
Note that some of these postures may be difficult. Instead of forcing or frustrating yourself to do them, take your time and start with a just a few that you find simple. As you gain flexibility, awareness, and strength, the others will come easier.
Enjoy and the best of luck to you!
Love Much,
Kris
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Kris
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Friday, February 22, 2008
Relieve Neck Tension
A lovely neck release that your puppy might love as well!
Lay out some pillows or blankets at least 4 inches high and lie on them. Let the shoulders and head come off the support. Place a rolled up hand towel under the neck for support and enjoy the inversion. Stay for 5 to 15 minutes. A little Mozart in the back ground and an eye pillow do wonders for this restorative.
Love Much,
Kris
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Thursday, February 21, 2008
Great Blogs
A great post at Just Breath reminds us that it takes courage to make decisions that bring us closer to our "real" Self. Sometimes what appears to be running away is really finding what we need in order to return to our true nature and share that with others. I salute Nadine's courage to move across the globe and to spread the news about South Africa. Here is the comment I left on her post:
"Very touching post. Your comment "I am in some ways less than I thought, and in other ways more."It is commendable to make efforts to help the world as a whole; one thing Yoga teaches us over and over is that we must feel inside what we strive to bring to the world. So to safety and faith; only then can you truly offer them."
Nadine's issues are global and something we can all take concern with, but this same principle applies in all of life. I maintained a friendship once because I thought this lady "needed me." It was very draining and took almost six months, before I realized that I wasn't helping anyone by staying in it. After breaking the ties, my energy returned and not only did I feel better, but my ability to share these great feelings with those around me spread.
Love Much,
Kris
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"Very touching post. Your comment "I am in some ways less than I thought, and in other ways more."It is commendable to make efforts to help the world as a whole; one thing Yoga teaches us over and over is that we must feel inside what we strive to bring to the world. So to safety and faith; only then can you truly offer them."
Nadine's issues are global and something we can all take concern with, but this same principle applies in all of life. I maintained a friendship once because I thought this lady "needed me." It was very draining and took almost six months, before I realized that I wasn't helping anyone by staying in it. After breaking the ties, my energy returned and not only did I feel better, but my ability to share these great feelings with those around me spread.
Do what brings you closer to God/Self/True Nature;
not what you think you are obligated to do.
Love Much,
Kris
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Monday, February 18, 2008
What is this ?
What is this a picture of? Could it be anything else? Is it too hard to tell?
Over the weekend I was reading The Healing Path of Yoga by Nischala Joy Devi. In her introduction she says,
"In the space and aeronautics field as a spaceship goes up it gains altitude. If you look out of the window you may not see the moon. If the ship rotates it is called changing attitude. With an attitude change you can now see the moon."
This is so perfectly said, I don't think I can add more to it. If you'd like a change in attitude and see the picture above from a different viewpoint, click here.
Love Much,
Kris
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Kris
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Sunday, February 17, 2008
And now for something completely different.....
WARNING: Swearing and an unusual tone for me follows!
I wrote this last summer while sitting on my back porch after being hearing a group of people talk about how hopeless life is; how there are no real choices. As you can tell, this got my goat.
Why take over six months to post this? Because it was a rant: an out-of-control rant. Sometimes I find it healthy to just get all my frustration out on paper (instead of in someone's face) and then go to exploring my feelings and finding compassion.
I debated on posting this, but I remember once how a student was amazed when I talked about losing it with my dog one day. She commented what a relief it was to see her Yoga teacher had bad days too.
So, here's my very human and angry rant. Anger at my own fears, hesitations, and uncertainties. Anger at those around me that encourage or justify these limitations. I don't expect you'll see a lot of these as fortunately meditation has helped them to become fewer and fewer.
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Belief, Man, that’s where it’s at.
Forget the crap about hard work and nose to the grindstone. What were these guys thinking? If you don’t have faith, if you don’t believe in yourself and what you’re doing, you don’t stand a chance. Why bother to pour your sweat and tears into something that you don’t even have believe in? It’s insane. The way we’re raised is insane. What the hell is going on here?
Life is more than working for the Man. It’s being the Man! You heard me, being the Man. Wrap you’re brain around that one for a minute. You. The Man. One in the same.
Don’t bail on me just yet. Think about it. You have the power. You make the decisions. You create the plans. You show your creative genius!
It’s there, trust me. I know you’re a creative genius. You know you’re a creative genius. So, what’s stopping you?
Fear, I tell you. Fear that you’re not good enough. Fear that you don’t have any new ideas. Fear that it’s all been done before.
Bull shit!
There are new ideas and discoveries cropping up every day. Just this year a whole new breed of shark was discovered off the coast of New Zealand. Scientists thought they had it all figured out and then quantum physics came in and questioned everything. Literally, everything! Even the way we think.
How’s that for new shit?
Pretty powerful stuff and here you are sitting on your ass saying there’s nothing new to be said.
Again, bullshit!
Take a chance. Follow an impulse. Do what makes your heart sing.
And don’t you dare tell me, you can’t. Family to support, not enough time, pension, whatever.
Stop the excuses now. Grab life by the balls and go for it!
Kris
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I wrote this last summer while sitting on my back porch after being hearing a group of people talk about how hopeless life is; how there are no real choices. As you can tell, this got my goat.
Why take over six months to post this? Because it was a rant: an out-of-control rant. Sometimes I find it healthy to just get all my frustration out on paper (instead of in someone's face) and then go to exploring my feelings and finding compassion.
I debated on posting this, but I remember once how a student was amazed when I talked about losing it with my dog one day. She commented what a relief it was to see her Yoga teacher had bad days too.
So, here's my very human and angry rant. Anger at my own fears, hesitations, and uncertainties. Anger at those around me that encourage or justify these limitations. I don't expect you'll see a lot of these as fortunately meditation has helped them to become fewer and fewer.
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Belief, Man, that’s where it’s at.
Forget the crap about hard work and nose to the grindstone. What were these guys thinking? If you don’t have faith, if you don’t believe in yourself and what you’re doing, you don’t stand a chance. Why bother to pour your sweat and tears into something that you don’t even have believe in? It’s insane. The way we’re raised is insane. What the hell is going on here?
Life is more than working for the Man. It’s being the Man! You heard me, being the Man. Wrap you’re brain around that one for a minute. You. The Man. One in the same.
Don’t bail on me just yet. Think about it. You have the power. You make the decisions. You create the plans. You show your creative genius!
It’s there, trust me. I know you’re a creative genius. You know you’re a creative genius. So, what’s stopping you?
Fear, I tell you. Fear that you’re not good enough. Fear that you don’t have any new ideas. Fear that it’s all been done before.
Bull shit!
There are new ideas and discoveries cropping up every day. Just this year a whole new breed of shark was discovered off the coast of New Zealand. Scientists thought they had it all figured out and then quantum physics came in and questioned everything. Literally, everything! Even the way we think.
How’s that for new shit?
Pretty powerful stuff and here you are sitting on your ass saying there’s nothing new to be said.
Again, bullshit!
Take a chance. Follow an impulse. Do what makes your heart sing.
And don’t you dare tell me, you can’t. Family to support, not enough time, pension, whatever.
Stop the excuses now. Grab life by the balls and go for it!
Kris
www.TotalHealthYoga.com
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Today is the first day of the rest of your life!
Thursday, February 14, 2008
Yoga Therapy
Yoga Therapy by AG Mohan and Indra Mohan is a truly wonderful book. It describes a "true" Yoga; not one that forces and demands. A Yoga rooted in breath and honor of the body and mind.
The style is Viniyoga, one of my personal favorites. This style emphasizes a therapeutic approach and stressed the need for individual classes. As popular as group classes are in the West, a personalized class becomes even more important when dealing with specific therapies.
I think this book is a wonderful collection of suggestions that can be applied to any practice or style. The first chapter is an introduction followed by the second chapter detailing breath and asana. Here's a quick example demonstrating how your breathing affects posture:
Start your inhales from the top of the chest and then continue inhaling all the way down to the navel. Emphasize the chest expansion. This helps to straighten out rounding in the upper back. As you exhale, begin in the belly and then work your way up to the collarbones. Focusing most of the exhale in the belly brings length to the low back and prevents sway back or over-arching the lumbar area.
Chapter 3 suggests methods of assessing a body. When developing a personal practice, assessment guides you away from what you just "like" and into what will provide you with the most benefits. This is key is creating a successful practice and injury prevention.
Next comes sequencing, which is a whole topic unto itself. I've worked in a Iyengar, Anusara, and Ashtanga--all with differing opinions on sequencing. What I've learned is that no one really knows for sure the best route. Some things, like ending with a symmetrical posture, make sense; but each situation is different. One thing unique to Viniyoga, and paramount in my opinion, is to rest periodically between postures. Take mini-savasanas ever so often to release tension before moving on.
Chapter 5 is about personalizing the practice and taking into account someone's fitness level, age, and condition. Next comes pranayama followed by Ayurveda, covering diet, doshas, and the mind.
Chapter 8 is a collection of case studies. Personally, I prefer the case studies in Gary Kraftsow's book, Yoga for Wellness; because Gary outlines why each and every posture/movement is chosen. Mohan's do this to some extent, but not as thoroughly.
Overall a great reference to gaining a deeper and practical understanding of breath and movement.
Love Much,
Kris
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Monday, February 11, 2008
Change the World - Commit Random Acts of Kindness
I ran into a couple of great quotes the other day:
Every time we perform a random act of kindness to a stranger, we have the potential to shift their view of the world as a more loving and kind place.
In the last year or so, I heard a story of a family that had a bicycle stolen from their front lawn. The police were unable to find the thief and the family was told there was nothing that could be done. So, they posted a sign on in front of their house expressing their disappointment with the person(s) that took the bike and asking for its return.
The bike was never returned. However, an anonymous envelope with money for a new bike and a note was left at the front door. The note said something like this:
What can you do to shift someone's experience and see the beauty all around us? Buy the checkout gal at the grocery store a bag of apples? Pay for the person behind you at a toll booth? Give flowers to a neighbor? Hand out $5 bills to strangers?
Go ahead; Change the world!
Love Much,
Kris
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"You write in order to change the world, knowing perfectly well that you probably can't, but also knowing that literature is indispensable to the world.... The world changes according to the way people see it, and if you alter, even by a millimeter, the way .... people look at reality, then you can change it." ~ James Baldwin
"I feel the vacuum, the loneliness, the silence, the dehydration of the soul as people who want desperately to save our constitution, country and planet still wander the streets without knowing how to say hi to one another." ~ Sam Smith
Every time we perform a random act of kindness to a stranger, we have the potential to shift their view of the world as a more loving and kind place.
In the last year or so, I heard a story of a family that had a bicycle stolen from their front lawn. The police were unable to find the thief and the family was told there was nothing that could be done. So, they posted a sign on in front of their house expressing their disappointment with the person(s) that took the bike and asking for its return.
The bike was never returned. However, an anonymous envelope with money for a new bike and a note was left at the front door. The note said something like this:
"Please don't think the world is just made up of thieves and criminals. There are many more open-hearted and kind people all around you."
What can you do to shift someone's experience and see the beauty all around us? Buy the checkout gal at the grocery store a bag of apples? Pay for the person behind you at a toll booth? Give flowers to a neighbor? Hand out $5 bills to strangers?
Go ahead; Change the world!
Love Much,
Kris
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Thursday, February 7, 2008
Healthy Brownie Recipe - Garbanzo Beans
It's true, you didn't misread the title of this post! Brownies that use garbanzo beans and are actually relatively healthy! A student and friend, Kathy G, made these brownies over the weekend and they were spectacular. I hope you enjoy them as much as we did, and thanks Kathy!
Best Ever Brownies
Preheat oven 350 degrees
1 and 1/2 c. semi-sweet chocolate chips
15oz. can garbanzo beans (drained & rinsed)
4 eggs
2T coffee powder (optional)
2T canola (or vegetable) oil
1t vanilla
1/2 c brown sugar
1/2 t baking powder
1/4 t salt
1/2 c chopped nuts (walnuts or pecans optional)
Melt the chocolate. Combine eggs, coffee powder and beans in food processor until very smooth. Add remaining ingredients - oil, vanilla, sugar, baking powder and salt, process until well blended.
Add melted chocolate and process briefly to mix, add nuts (if using).
Place batter in greased 9 in. square baking pan. Bake 350 for 35 to 40 min.
Kathy used Hazelnut Nutella as a frosting. Super yum!
Enjoy the best darn brownies ever!
Love Much,
Kris
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Best Ever Brownies
Preheat oven 350 degrees
1 and 1/2 c. semi-sweet chocolate chips
15oz. can garbanzo beans (drained & rinsed)
4 eggs
2T coffee powder (optional)
2T canola (or vegetable) oil
1t vanilla
1/2 c brown sugar
1/2 t baking powder
1/4 t salt
1/2 c chopped nuts (walnuts or pecans optional)
Melt the chocolate. Combine eggs, coffee powder and beans in food processor until very smooth. Add remaining ingredients - oil, vanilla, sugar, baking powder and salt, process until well blended.
Add melted chocolate and process briefly to mix, add nuts (if using).
Place batter in greased 9 in. square baking pan. Bake 350 for 35 to 40 min.
Kathy used Hazelnut Nutella as a frosting. Super yum!
Enjoy the best darn brownies ever!
Love Much,
Kris
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Wednesday, February 6, 2008
Yoga Benefits - It's not just the body and mind
Check out this video on the global importance of Yoga.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NMh8RfqAF1s&eurl=http://www.yyogamovie.com/awareness/video/index.html
Love Much,
Kris
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NMh8RfqAF1s&eurl=http://www.yyogamovie.com/awareness/video/index.html
Love Much,
Kris
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Tuesday, February 5, 2008
Yes We Can! - Hope for Peace
This reminds me of Martin Luther King's speech, I Had A Dream. Hope still reigns, keep it strong!
Video Clip Here.
UPDATE: Just found the story and source behind this video. I believe many of us feel the same as Mr. Will.I.Am. Be inspired!
Love Much,
Kris
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Video Clip Here.
UPDATE: Just found the story and source behind this video. I believe many of us feel the same as Mr. Will.I.Am. Be inspired!
Love Much,
Kris
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Monday, February 4, 2008
Inspiring Story
My younger son (age 13) shared with me The Sniper by Liam O'Flaherty. I'm grateful to his teacher for exposing him to this short story as it touched his heart and mine.
In the interest of not spoiling the story, I will not comment directly on it here. Instead check out The Sniper by clicking here.
Love Much,
Kris
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In the interest of not spoiling the story, I will not comment directly on it here. Instead check out The Sniper by clicking here.
Love Much,
Kris
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Thursday, January 31, 2008
Obama For President of the USA
Anyone who knows me knows that I avoid political comments unless asked. So, after 43 years of life, this is a first for me.
Most of our votes, here in the US, are a selection of the lesser of two evils. 2008 has the potential to be a unique and promising year. Thus I am compelled to voice my political viewpoint without being asked.
After watching Obama's Ebenezer speech, I was left impressed. His call for unity of all people makes a lot of sense. Unlike many speeches, Obama did NOT criticize other candidates. I think he really hit the nail on the head when he spoke of a moral deficit and an empathy deficit in our country. In my own life and in those around me, I see a need to look at the underlying causes of physical or superficial issues. I believe this is true in our country as well. Until we have a mindset as a nation that is not based in fear or strong egos, I do not believe we will be a positive force in the world.
The notion of looking at the root--emotional root--of our nation's mistakes and bullying attitude makes perfect sense to me if we are up for real positive change.
This is only the beginning, but an area that I've never heard a politician address before. To then do some real work and shift the policies and current course of our country (diminishing privacy and personal rights, questionable wars, out-and-out lies concerning presidential decisions) is in order.
Obama has been a civil rights attorney on the south side of Chicago standing up for the less fortunate. He's a man that understands the needs of the people--he's been working to help them his whole career.
As for the war in Iraq, check the record. Hillary voted to allow Bush to pursue this endeavor.
After researching both Democratic candidates, there's positive and negative on both sides. It's tough to filter through what's fact and what's fiction. But in the end, Obama seems like the best choice.
Here are some reasons Mike (my partner) is supporting Obama:
- He has a history of helping diverse groups find common cause.
- His policy ideas seem to be based on morals earned through personal experience, not from campaign focus groups.
- Of all the candidates, Obama as president could do the most towards repairing America's image around the world.
Love Much,
Kris
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Most of our votes, here in the US, are a selection of the lesser of two evils. 2008 has the potential to be a unique and promising year. Thus I am compelled to voice my political viewpoint without being asked.
After watching Obama's Ebenezer speech, I was left impressed. His call for unity of all people makes a lot of sense. Unlike many speeches, Obama did NOT criticize other candidates. I think he really hit the nail on the head when he spoke of a moral deficit and an empathy deficit in our country. In my own life and in those around me, I see a need to look at the underlying causes of physical or superficial issues. I believe this is true in our country as well. Until we have a mindset as a nation that is not based in fear or strong egos, I do not believe we will be a positive force in the world.
The notion of looking at the root--emotional root--of our nation's mistakes and bullying attitude makes perfect sense to me if we are up for real positive change.
This is only the beginning, but an area that I've never heard a politician address before. To then do some real work and shift the policies and current course of our country (diminishing privacy and personal rights, questionable wars, out-and-out lies concerning presidential decisions) is in order.
Obama has been a civil rights attorney on the south side of Chicago standing up for the less fortunate. He's a man that understands the needs of the people--he's been working to help them his whole career.
As for the war in Iraq, check the record. Hillary voted to allow Bush to pursue this endeavor.
After researching both Democratic candidates, there's positive and negative on both sides. It's tough to filter through what's fact and what's fiction. But in the end, Obama seems like the best choice.
Here are some reasons Mike (my partner) is supporting Obama:
- He has a history of helping diverse groups find common cause.
- His policy ideas seem to be based on morals earned through personal experience, not from campaign focus groups.
- Of all the candidates, Obama as president could do the most towards repairing America's image around the world.
Additionally, Obama works from the bottom-up, not top-down. Clinton is does the opposite. Check out this article from the Washington Post.
Also, check out the Wall Street Journal article where Clinton now wants FL and MI to count--after agreeing five months earlier that they wouldn't. Hum, do you suppose her winning in those states has anything to do with it? Where's the consistency and standing by your word in that? Perhaps, Obama has also turned back on his word, but I've been researching and haven't found it yet. It's just possible we have what may be a stand-up guy running for president!
Clinton said (see Washington Post article above), "I know how Washington Republicans think, how they operate and how to beat them." This doesn't sound like unity to me, and is a divided country what we really need?
Love Much,
Kris
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Wednesday, January 30, 2008
Emotions - An opportunity to learn
Years ago I decided to stop shoving "negative" emotions out of the way and instead exploring why they came up. This change in direction has made a huge difference in my life, mostly by encouraging me to take personal responsibility for my feelings instead of blaming others.
This not only makes me feel better, but I'm sure my partner and kids appreciate it!
In the recent past, I've run across a number of thoughts that agree with this path of emotion exploration. The most structured method is offered by Byron Katie called The Work. Basically you start by writing out what has pissed you off (or upset you or frustrated you, etc.). Then you ask four questions:
1. Is it true?
2. Is it really true?
3. How do you react when you believe this thought?
4. Who would you be without this thought?
Katie's web site is very helpful. Additionally, she's written a number of books, my favorite being Loving What Is. The questions appear "too simple". Yet, reading more about her ideas shows you how to delve in deeper to see what's really going on. Yogis -- used to the idea of quieting the ego and mind -- will find an easier time hearing the inner voice that offers honest and true answers to the four questions.
Gary Zukav also promotes the importance of learning from your emotions. In Soul to Soul, he says:
"The painful experiences that you encounter, such as resentment, anger, and vengefulness, are the parts of your personality that your soul desires to heal. They are the parts of your personality that are not aligned with your soul. Your soul wants to create harmony, sharing, cooperation, and reverence for Life.... Your painful experiences are signposts that point directly to parts of your personality that need healing.... learn about yourself from your experiences and change yourself rather than continue to have the same painful experiences again and again. That is spiritual growth." (page 224)
Even Ester Hicks (Abraham) stresses the value of being honest regarding your feelings. She speaks of "feeling good" all the time, but not by denying your current state; rather by finding ways to transform yourself to a place of joy.
I believe Byron Katie's work and emotion exploration is one of many ways to do this.
Love Much,
Kris
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http://www.totalhealthyogaclasses.blogspot.com/
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This not only makes me feel better, but I'm sure my partner and kids appreciate it!
In the recent past, I've run across a number of thoughts that agree with this path of emotion exploration. The most structured method is offered by Byron Katie called The Work. Basically you start by writing out what has pissed you off (or upset you or frustrated you, etc.). Then you ask four questions:
1. Is it true?
2. Is it really true?
3. How do you react when you believe this thought?
4. Who would you be without this thought?
Katie's web site is very helpful. Additionally, she's written a number of books, my favorite being Loving What Is. The questions appear "too simple". Yet, reading more about her ideas shows you how to delve in deeper to see what's really going on. Yogis -- used to the idea of quieting the ego and mind -- will find an easier time hearing the inner voice that offers honest and true answers to the four questions.
Gary Zukav also promotes the importance of learning from your emotions. In Soul to Soul, he says:
"The painful experiences that you encounter, such as resentment, anger, and vengefulness, are the parts of your personality that your soul desires to heal. They are the parts of your personality that are not aligned with your soul. Your soul wants to create harmony, sharing, cooperation, and reverence for Life.... Your painful experiences are signposts that point directly to parts of your personality that need healing.... learn about yourself from your experiences and change yourself rather than continue to have the same painful experiences again and again. That is spiritual growth." (page 224)
Even Ester Hicks (Abraham) stresses the value of being honest regarding your feelings. She speaks of "feeling good" all the time, but not by denying your current state; rather by finding ways to transform yourself to a place of joy.
I believe Byron Katie's work and emotion exploration is one of many ways to do this.
Love Much,
Kris
http://www.totalhealthyoga.com/
http://www.totalhealthyogaclasses.blogspot.com/
Today is the first day of the rest of your life!
Sunday, January 27, 2008
Anatomy of the Spirit
I realize this book has been out since 1996, but am still inspired to offer a few comments regarding it's usefulness and wisdom.The first time I began reading Anatomy of the Spirit, by Dr. Caroline Myss, I got 20 or so pages in and decided she was a nut job. I quickly put the book back on the Barnes and Noble shelf for fear that some of her nuttiness would rub off on me.
Years later, I saw it at a used book store, Half Price Books, and felt compelled to buy it. On the way home, I stopped in a coffee shop and began to read. This time the ideas didn't seem so far fetched or crazy. A matter of fact, a tear rolled down my cheek as I read the Introduction. Something inside told me this book would change my life.
If you are opened minded, or already have an alternative mindset, it's a great read. Caroline talks about the seven chakras or energy centers of the body. She directly relates each center to historical ideas of various religions. Her knowledge, after studying religion, is vast. She, also, works with medical doctor, Norm Shealy, and relays interesting stories about their cases.
What I've really enjoyed about this book is the reference aspect. Over the past five years, I have used the table on pages 96-101 to help get to the root of various issues or feelings.
This table lists the following: Chakra (energy center), related organs, probable mental or emotional issues, and physical dysfunctions.
When I'm feeling off in any area, this chart pinpoints the associated chakra. From there I go to the self-examination questions at the end of that chakras chapter. Usually that's enough to provide an insight regarding what's going on. Sometimes I need to re-read the chapter.
If I'm just feeling "off", but can't put my finger on a physical dysfunction or mental issue, then I scan my body. It's really pretty simple. I lie in bed (usually in the morning just before rising or during savasana after a Yoga practice) and rest my awareness for a few moments at each energy center. They all vibrate differently. If any area feels numb or blocked, I go to the chapter for that energy center. Like clockwork, I've discovered issues that need addressing.
I believe using Anatomy of the Spirit in this fashion has prevented problems having to show up in my gross physical body. If you catch a disturbance in the subtle stages, it can prevent them from ever showing up in the physical body.
Overall, well worth every penny I paid for it. Thanks, Dr. Myss!
Love Much,
Kris
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http://www.totalhealthyogaclasses.blogspot.com/
Today is the first day of the rest of your life!
Kris
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http://www.totalhealthyogaclasses.blogspot.com/
Today is the first day of the rest of your life!
Friday, January 25, 2008
Oral Hygiene Care
Look closely and take your time. Can you guess what this is?
Wrong! Try again.
Still not sure? Well, technically it's a cheese knife sitting on my kitchen counter. However, it hasn't been used for cheese in years.
Its usual home is my bathroom drawer, and I use it religiously every morning to clean my tongue. At first it was gross and I wasn't sure I could scrap off all that crap that formed in my mouth while I innocently slept through the night.
But the alternative--leaving it there to be swallowed back down or worse yet rubbed onto my honey's tongue (your welcome for the visual)--was far worse than scraping it out and washing it down the sink.
I first heard about tongue scraping in an Ayurvedic text. The idea is that ama--icky stuff that your body is eliminating--rises to your tongues surface. To aid in the removal of this goo, you have to clean it off. Using a tooth brush sounds good on paper, but I have found there is still a lot left over. I've never had the balls to clean my tongue prior to brushing. Trust me, it's gross enough to do after brushing.
An added benefit to tongue scraping is fresher breath--which my 13 year old thanks me for!
Finally, why the cheese knife? Pretty simple really, the shape is perfect. It has a diagonal end somehow the shape of it makes the cleaning process thorough and easy. I've tried using a "professional" scraper that took two hands--they make better ones now. How is needing two hands convenient? It was awfully difficult to see past my hands and into my mouth! Also, a spoon can work; the shape is nowhere as useful as my precious cheese knife though. The spoon just didn't clean off as much goo.
Now before you go into your kitchen and grab a serrated sharp knife and wonder why there's blood all over the bathroom floor..... my wonderful "knife" is for soft cheese and is firm, but not sharp.
Enjoy the wonderful world of hygiene!
Kris
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Wednesday, January 23, 2008
Moment of Truth
Tonight yet another reality television program launches into millions of peoples living rooms--if they choose to watch.
This one is called Moment of Truth and quite honestly I don't see why anyone could condone such a program. When did watching people ruin their lives and create sorrow for themselves and others become entertainment? I purposefully am not including a link to info on this "show" as they do not need more people checking it out.
However, I'm compelled to question the premise of it. People will come on and be hooked up to a lie detector and have to answer 21 questions honestly. Prior to the filming, the contestants' backgrounds are delved into. Family, co-workers, neighbors, and friends are investigated in attempt to find "juicy" questions to ask.
The questions (if answered honestly) cause pain and discomfort to people. For example, an obese woman asks if "obese people disgust you?" Remember, if it's asked that means that according to the pre-show research, the answer would be yes. To look at your spouse and say whether-or-not you sometimes think about being with someone else. The list goes on and on.
On the radio (WKLH - Milwaukee) this morning, I heard that this show was banned from a country after a woman confessed to hiring a hit man to take out her husband and still took home $25,000!
In Yoga the sutras site the importance of honesty (satha). However, they also (and before satha is mentioned) say to be kind (ahimsa).
I am a very honest person and am pretty strict about it while raising my children. But to use honesty as an excuse to humiliate and treat someone with such cruelty is ridiculous.
This is not entertainment! Airing this program promotes the human race moving in a backwards direction. So many people are learning to open their hearts and take responsibility for their lives. Why doesn't that make the television? Public TV does their best and offers wisdom of leaders such as Wayne Dyer or Christian Northrup.
It saddens me that watching people air their pain and bring it upon others is what sells commercial time. My hope is that one day soon, the public will cry out for programs that bring more love and compassion into their hearts. Not sorrow and grief.
Love Much,
Kris
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This one is called Moment of Truth and quite honestly I don't see why anyone could condone such a program. When did watching people ruin their lives and create sorrow for themselves and others become entertainment? I purposefully am not including a link to info on this "show" as they do not need more people checking it out.
However, I'm compelled to question the premise of it. People will come on and be hooked up to a lie detector and have to answer 21 questions honestly. Prior to the filming, the contestants' backgrounds are delved into. Family, co-workers, neighbors, and friends are investigated in attempt to find "juicy" questions to ask.
The questions (if answered honestly) cause pain and discomfort to people. For example, an obese woman asks if "obese people disgust you?" Remember, if it's asked that means that according to the pre-show research, the answer would be yes. To look at your spouse and say whether-or-not you sometimes think about being with someone else. The list goes on and on.
On the radio (WKLH - Milwaukee) this morning, I heard that this show was banned from a country after a woman confessed to hiring a hit man to take out her husband and still took home $25,000!
In Yoga the sutras site the importance of honesty (satha). However, they also (and before satha is mentioned) say to be kind (ahimsa).
I am a very honest person and am pretty strict about it while raising my children. But to use honesty as an excuse to humiliate and treat someone with such cruelty is ridiculous.
This is not entertainment! Airing this program promotes the human race moving in a backwards direction. So many people are learning to open their hearts and take responsibility for their lives. Why doesn't that make the television? Public TV does their best and offers wisdom of leaders such as Wayne Dyer or Christian Northrup.
It saddens me that watching people air their pain and bring it upon others is what sells commercial time. My hope is that one day soon, the public will cry out for programs that bring more love and compassion into their hearts. Not sorrow and grief.
Love Much,
Kris
www.TotalHealthYoga.com
www.TotalHealthYogaClasses.Blogspot.com
Today is the first day of the rest of your life!
Monday, January 21, 2008
Zukav - Soul to Soul Review
Over the last couple of weeks, I've been thoroughly enjoying Gary Zukav's book, Soul to Soul. His words are wise and very accessible to the average Jo. It's a collection of one to three page short stories.
These anecdotes describe what at first seem like "every day" occurrences. The beauty comes about through Gary's heart-felt interpretations of these events.
He definitely walks the talk; he finds the sacred in every moment and every breath of each day.
One of my favorite stories, and I have several, begins on page 82. Zukav tells of when he was a young Green Beret in Hong Kong. At one point, with an attitude of pride and self-centeredness, he puts out his burning cigarette on the sidewalk of the city. Moments later an elderly gentleman comes up gently taps Mr. Zukav on the shoulder.
Without saying a word, this older man holds out the butt to return it to its owner, smiling kindly the whole time. Gary thanks the man and puts the butt in his pocket.
In Soul to Soul more detail is given; the heart of the words refer to the widmon of this elderly man. He offered the trash without judgement or harshness.
Littering has been a peeve of mine, but I usually just pick up after someone--not teaching them anything. The only option that I've seen, until now, is to get angry and try to "make" someone pick up their garbage. This awakened man shares a third and wise option: To show someone another way through compassion and an open heart.
I highly recommend this fabulous book of wisdom and profound insights.
Love Much,
Kris
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Kris
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Wednesday, January 16, 2008
Pregnancy Yoga - How do I continue my practice?
After reading Tips on Getting Pregnant, I'm sure you've now wondering how to practice while carrying a baby. Okay, maybe it didn't work that fast, but stranger things have happened--unless your a man!
Here are some beneficial postures:
Cat/Table - Skip arching the spine down towards the floor.
Baddha Konasana (Bound Angle or Goddess)
Squats - Omit during the last few weeks of pregnancy.
Pelvic floor lifts - Lifting on the inhales and relaxing on the exhales.
Alternate nostril breathing (no retentions)
These ones are fine to do as well:
Virabhadrasana I & II (Warrior I & II)
Trikonasana (Triangle)
Balasana (Child) with support for the upper body
Gomukhasana (Cow)
Savasana (Corpse) - Lie on your left side with a pillow between your legs.
Ujjayi breathing
Be very careful with the following:
Twists - Do 70% of what you normally can do; twisting from the upper back and shoulders rather than the belly.
Supine (lying on your back) asanas - Use blankets to create a wedge until a comfortable position is reached and your torso is close to a 45 degree angle.
Avoid these:
Full Inversions
Breath retention
Bellows breathing
Prone (laying on your belly) asanas, such as cobra or locust; This really depends on how large you get. Use common sense. Ask your teacher for modifications.
Intense twists
Strong abdominal work, such as navasana (full boat)
Check out http://www.healthandyoga.com/html/preg.html for further suggestions and breathing divided into trimesters.
And for those wondering: NO I'M NOT PREGNANT, NOR DO I WANT TO BE! Been there, done that, and working on releasing my children not having more. With that said, best of luck to all you mother and fathers to be.
Love Much,
Kris
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Here are some beneficial postures:
Cat/Table - Skip arching the spine down towards the floor.
Baddha Konasana (Bound Angle or Goddess)
Squats - Omit during the last few weeks of pregnancy.
Pelvic floor lifts - Lifting on the inhales and relaxing on the exhales.
Alternate nostril breathing (no retentions)
These ones are fine to do as well:
Virabhadrasana I & II (Warrior I & II)
Trikonasana (Triangle)
Balasana (Child) with support for the upper body
Gomukhasana (Cow)
Savasana (Corpse) - Lie on your left side with a pillow between your legs.
Ujjayi breathing
Be very careful with the following:
Twists - Do 70% of what you normally can do; twisting from the upper back and shoulders rather than the belly.
Supine (lying on your back) asanas - Use blankets to create a wedge until a comfortable position is reached and your torso is close to a 45 degree angle.
Avoid these:
Full Inversions
Breath retention
Bellows breathing
Prone (laying on your belly) asanas, such as cobra or locust; This really depends on how large you get. Use common sense. Ask your teacher for modifications.
Intense twists
Strong abdominal work, such as navasana (full boat)
Check out http://www.healthandyoga.com/html/preg.html for further suggestions and breathing divided into trimesters.
And for those wondering: NO I'M NOT PREGNANT, NOR DO I WANT TO BE! Been there, done that, and working on releasing my children not having more. With that said, best of luck to all you mother and fathers to be.
Love Much,
Kris
www.TotalHealthYoga.com
www.TotalHealthYogaClasses.Blogspot.com
Today is the first day of the rest of your life!
Monday, January 14, 2008
Terminal illness
Question: I've been ill for a couple of weeks now and also have been dealing with some emotional news that I think may be hindering my recovery. A dear friend of mine is dying from cancer. I am having a really hard time dealing with this on many levels...what do I do for her and her family, how do I explain this to my kids (5 & 8) who are friends with her kids (3 & 5). How do I keep myself from being consumed by grief and anger? Do you have some suggestions for practices that may help me to better grasp the challenges I am facing?
Suggestions: Wow, you do have a lot happening in your life!
First, your health. Let's lower your stress with some gentle breathing and meditation. Find a comfortable position. That might mean laying in a warm bath. Whatever works for you. Bring awareness to your exhales--no forcing or even deep abdominal work. Picture each exhale like a breeze blowing in the tropics causing the palm leaves to gently sway. Over time, you may allow the exhales to last a bit longer, but keep it very restful, as if you are laying on a hammock on a summer's day.
Once you feel peaceful and restful, you can add one of these affirmations:
"I freely take in Divine ideas that are filled with the breath and the intelligence of Life. This is a new moment."
Say this through out the day, as well. Even look in the mirror and say it with conviction--with feeling and faith.
Now for your friend. I empathize with the desire to help in some way, but know that that's not always possible. Oriah (Mountain Dreamer) says, "Sometimes we can only keep our heart high for another." To be there without pity, but to be there with an open heart and lifted spirit.
You might want to check out books by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross . I have found her insights and viewpoints invaluable when dealing with grief.
If your friend is open to healing avenues, you might bring her Hay's Cancer CD . I don't know anyone first hand, but have heard some amazing testimonials from using Louise Hays work with healing from cancer. In general Louise Hay says, "All cancer stems from held resentment." (An excellent reason for us all to let go of the past.)
As for the children, Dr. Kubler-Ross's site offers various suggestions. She was a big advocate of NOT keeping children in the dark and encouraging them to express themselves through drawings. I agree with the idea of keeping the children involved. With that said, many psychotherapists say to wait until the death is near.
In the end, you have to use your best judgment. I'd stay tuned in and aware of how much they seem to be picking up on--most likely it's more than you think. This is why I agree with Dr Ross and would open communication. It's a lot better (in my opinion) to allow kids to express than to be left with fear that something is happening that Mom won't even talk about. Again, it really depends on how close your kids are to her family.
Ah, grief and anger. First, allow yourself to feel. I'd highly recommend having your husband take the kids out of the house and spend some time sobbing, screaming, throwing pillows, punching the bed, and so on. Don't hold back. These are strong and volatile emotions, they will express themselves. How is your choice: either letting them out on a pillow, displaced anger at a loved one, or your own health problems. I'd go for the pillow.
Also, anger at "God" and your friend are very likely and an openly expressed letter or talking too might be in order-even if the letter is never sent. I'm not saying chew your friend out, but to express frustration in private and allow anger at her for getting sick, can be very releasing. Again, NO JUDGMENT--take time to let yourself feel.
After releasing--and odds are this will have to be done a number of times--follow up with
(Check out my previous class post regarding grief.) Do this affirmation after each release (pillow punching time). If you can find no other time, yell in your car.
"All is well," can be a hard pill to swallow--but consider that there is a purpose and that these events are taking place for a reason.
Finally, here is a poem that I really enjoy:
I am standing on the seashore. A ship at my side spreads her white sails to the morning breeze and starts for the blue ocean. She is an object of beauty and strength, and I stand and watch her until at length she is a speck of white cloud just where the sea and sky come to mingle with each other.
Then someone at my side says, 'There! She's gone!' Gone where? Gone from my sight, that is all. She is just as large in mast and hull and spar as she was when she left my side, and she is just as able to bear her load of living weight to her destined harbor.
Her diminished size is in me, not in her. And just at the moment when someone at my side says, 'There! She's gone!' There are other voices ready to take up the glad shout, 'There she comes!'
Love Much,
Kris
www.TotalHealthYoga.com
www.TotalHealthYogaClasses.Blogspot.com
Today is the first day of the rest of your life!
Suggestions: Wow, you do have a lot happening in your life!
First, your health. Let's lower your stress with some gentle breathing and meditation. Find a comfortable position. That might mean laying in a warm bath. Whatever works for you. Bring awareness to your exhales--no forcing or even deep abdominal work. Picture each exhale like a breeze blowing in the tropics causing the palm leaves to gently sway. Over time, you may allow the exhales to last a bit longer, but keep it very restful, as if you are laying on a hammock on a summer's day.
Once you feel peaceful and restful, you can add one of these affirmations:
"I freely take in Divine ideas that are filled with the breath and the intelligence of Life. This is a new moment."
"I lovingly release the past. They are free and I am free. All is well in my heart now."
Say this through out the day, as well. Even look in the mirror and say it with conviction--with feeling and faith.
Now for your friend. I empathize with the desire to help in some way, but know that that's not always possible. Oriah (Mountain Dreamer) says, "Sometimes we can only keep our heart high for another." To be there without pity, but to be there with an open heart and lifted spirit.
You might want to check out books by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross . I have found her insights and viewpoints invaluable when dealing with grief.
If your friend is open to healing avenues, you might bring her Hay's Cancer CD . I don't know anyone first hand, but have heard some amazing testimonials from using Louise Hays work with healing from cancer. In general Louise Hay says, "All cancer stems from held resentment." (An excellent reason for us all to let go of the past.)
As for the children, Dr. Kubler-Ross's site offers various suggestions. She was a big advocate of NOT keeping children in the dark and encouraging them to express themselves through drawings. I agree with the idea of keeping the children involved. With that said, many psychotherapists say to wait until the death is near.
In the end, you have to use your best judgment. I'd stay tuned in and aware of how much they seem to be picking up on--most likely it's more than you think. This is why I agree with Dr Ross and would open communication. It's a lot better (in my opinion) to allow kids to express than to be left with fear that something is happening that Mom won't even talk about. Again, it really depends on how close your kids are to her family.
Ah, grief and anger. First, allow yourself to feel. I'd highly recommend having your husband take the kids out of the house and spend some time sobbing, screaming, throwing pillows, punching the bed, and so on. Don't hold back. These are strong and volatile emotions, they will express themselves. How is your choice: either letting them out on a pillow, displaced anger at a loved one, or your own health problems. I'd go for the pillow.
Also, anger at "God" and your friend are very likely and an openly expressed letter or talking too might be in order-even if the letter is never sent. I'm not saying chew your friend out, but to express frustration in private and allow anger at her for getting sick, can be very releasing. Again, NO JUDGMENT--take time to let yourself feel.
After releasing--and odds are this will have to be done a number of times--follow up with
"I forgive you. I forgive me. All is well."
(Check out my previous class post regarding grief.) Do this affirmation after each release (pillow punching time). If you can find no other time, yell in your car.
"All is well," can be a hard pill to swallow--but consider that there is a purpose and that these events are taking place for a reason.
Finally, here is a poem that I really enjoy:
What Is Dying?
I am standing on the seashore. A ship at my side spreads her white sails to the morning breeze and starts for the blue ocean. She is an object of beauty and strength, and I stand and watch her until at length she is a speck of white cloud just where the sea and sky come to mingle with each other.
Then someone at my side says, 'There! She's gone!' Gone where? Gone from my sight, that is all. She is just as large in mast and hull and spar as she was when she left my side, and she is just as able to bear her load of living weight to her destined harbor.
Her diminished size is in me, not in her. And just at the moment when someone at my side says, 'There! She's gone!' There are other voices ready to take up the glad shout, 'There she comes!'
~ Charles H. Brent
I hope you find some peace.Love Much,
Kris
www.TotalHealthYoga.com
www.TotalHealthYogaClasses.Blogspot.com
Today is the first day of the rest of your life!
Friday, January 11, 2008
Tips on Getting Pregnant
*No this is not me! Photo compliments of wikipedia, as digital cameras didn't exist when I was pregnant (maybe they did, but you get a feel for more age--I mean wisdom!).*Question: I have been trying to get pregnant and was curious if there were any yoga poses that could help?
Response: Yoga is known to relax us and too much stress can make getting pregnant tough. Dr. Timothy McCall talks at this here: http://www.babycenter.com/400_can-yoga-help-me-get-pregnant_506701_1000.bc.
Another helpful site is http://www.gettingpregnant.co.uk/fertility_yoga.html which lists a few poses as helpful.
Most importantly, I think, is to relax into the poses and NOT stress yourself out over having a baby. Instead use this time (especially with legs on wall pose) to visualize having a baby or being pregnant. Use all five senses. If it's getting pregnant (and not just having a baby, which could include adoption) you might imagine the sounds, smells, tastes, feel, and sight of you carrying a child in your womb. Perhaps even caress your belly with gratitude that you have a baby growing inside of you.
The keys are:
1. Visualize
2. Extend gratitude as if you are pregnant now
3. Express love for this soon to be born child
Watch out for negative feelings and do NOT focus on the lack of not having a child yet. In my opinion, these steps while resting in one of the three yoga postures (legs on wall, goddess/cobbler, and/or bridge) would be worth a try for at least a month.
Finally, if you pray or attend a church (or something similar) that offers prayer requests, then use this too--but remember to focus on the having of a baby or being pregnant or giving birth to a healthy child. I've heard of a couple of folks conceiving through prayer.
Love Much,
Kris
http://www.totalhealthyoga.com/
http://www.totalhealthyogaclasses.blogspot.com/
Today is the first day of the rest of your life!
Wednesday, January 9, 2008
Setting New Years Resolutions - Out With The Old
Do you ever find at this time of year that it's difficult to find space for all the new presents that came during December? If you have young children, you might know just what I mean.
In order to make space for the new, we have to let go of the old. If you want a new TV, you'll have to give away the old one. Only so many boxes or trinkets will fit or will have a chance to be enjoyed. The old ones, move on to new homes. There is always a flow. A coming in and going out.
Our minds are the same way. To allow new ideas or attitudes into our lives, we first release or let go of old labels and thought patterns.
The art of Feng Shui tells us to clean out our closets when we are stuck and what we desire is not flowing into our life. I take this two ways. One, go through the bedroom closet and get rid of stuff that in longer being used. Salvation Army is one of many great places to take donations. Old love letters, might be better suited for a bonfire. Two, check out the mind. What cob webs and old thought patterns are hanging around in there? Still wishing for life to be different? Still wanting to be 20 again? Time to get rid of these thoughts as well. (Suddenly the daunting task of house cleaning seems pretty easy!)
What thought patterns do you hold onto? Are the helping or hindering your life? Is it time to clean inside and out?
Love Much,
Kris
http://www.totalhealthyoga.com/
http://www.totalhealthyogaclasses.blogspot.com/
Today is the first day of the rest of your life!
In order to make space for the new, we have to let go of the old. If you want a new TV, you'll have to give away the old one. Only so many boxes or trinkets will fit or will have a chance to be enjoyed. The old ones, move on to new homes. There is always a flow. A coming in and going out.
Our minds are the same way. To allow new ideas or attitudes into our lives, we first release or let go of old labels and thought patterns.
The art of Feng Shui tells us to clean out our closets when we are stuck and what we desire is not flowing into our life. I take this two ways. One, go through the bedroom closet and get rid of stuff that in longer being used. Salvation Army is one of many great places to take donations. Old love letters, might be better suited for a bonfire. Two, check out the mind. What cob webs and old thought patterns are hanging around in there? Still wishing for life to be different? Still wanting to be 20 again? Time to get rid of these thoughts as well. (Suddenly the daunting task of house cleaning seems pretty easy!)
What thought patterns do you hold onto? Are the helping or hindering your life? Is it time to clean inside and out?
Let go of the old, so that the new may come in.
Love Much,
Kris
http://www.totalhealthyoga.com/
http://www.totalhealthyogaclasses.blogspot.com/
Today is the first day of the rest of your life!
Monday, January 7, 2008
Appeciation Certificates
I appreciate:
for:
From:
dated:
Please present to Margret B for your appreciation gift
Over the weekend, I took a stack of books on how to knit to my partner's office. He had a lot of work to do, and we still wanted to hang out together, especially since during the week I work most nights and he works during the day.
On one of my many trips to the coffee pot (decaf, mind you!), I noticed a display with a bunch of Appreciation cards in it. Basically, they looked like the beginning of this post.
How very cool, that a national architectural and engineering firm, HGA, really encourages their employees to think about what they appreciate in their co-workers, but to take the time to let them know.
How often do we do that in our own lives? When was the last time you told someone how much you appreciate them? Not just in passing, but sat down, looked them in the eye, held their hands gently, and tell them how precious it is to have them in your life?
Love Much,
Kris
www.TotalHealthYoga.com
www.TotalHealthYogaClasses.Blogspot.com
Today is the first day of the rest of your life!
for:
From:
dated:
Please present to Margret B for your appreciation gift
Over the weekend, I took a stack of books on how to knit to my partner's office. He had a lot of work to do, and we still wanted to hang out together, especially since during the week I work most nights and he works during the day.
On one of my many trips to the coffee pot (decaf, mind you!), I noticed a display with a bunch of Appreciation cards in it. Basically, they looked like the beginning of this post.
How very cool, that a national architectural and engineering firm, HGA, really encourages their employees to think about what they appreciate in their co-workers, but to take the time to let them know.
How often do we do that in our own lives? When was the last time you told someone how much you appreciate them? Not just in passing, but sat down, looked them in the eye, held their hands gently, and tell them how precious it is to have them in your life?
Love Much,
Kris
www.TotalHealthYoga.com
www.TotalHealthYogaClasses.Blogspot.com
Today is the first day of the rest of your life!
Friday, January 4, 2008
Bran Muffin Recipe
Ask and thou shalt receive!
Sounds like I'm not the only one that could use a pipe cleaning. So, in the interest of releasing the old (literally!) and allowing in the fresh and new, here's the Bran Muffins recipe complements of The Tassajara Bread Book (posted about earlier).
Bran Muffins by Ed Brown
1 1/2 cups unprocessed wheat bran
1/2 cup boiling water
1 1/4 cups unbleached white or whole wheat flour (I used whole wheat pastry flour)
1 1/4 teaspoons baking soda
1/4 teaspoon salt
1/4 cup butter (I used ghee)
1/4 cup sugar
1/4 cup molasses (I used blackstrap molasses--gotta love that iron)
2 eggs
1 cup buttermilk
3/4 cup raisins (I omitted this because my partner is not fond of them; I know, I know. I should check on these things before becoming involved with someone.)
[Makes 12 medium-to-large branny muffins. Preheat oven to 400 degrees Fahrenheit.]
Combine 1/2 cup of the bran with the boiling water and let it steep.
Combine the remaining bran with the rest of the dry ingredients.
In a separate bowl cream the butter and sugar, then blend in the molasses and eggs.
Mix the steeped bran in with the buttermilk.
Add the dry ingredients to the butter--sugar mixture alternately with the buttermilk, beginning and ending with flour and mixing briefly after each addition.
Let the batter stand in the refrigerator for 12 hours. Spoon into greased muffin tins and bake in a 400 degree oven for 18-25 minutes.
The batter will keep refrigerated up to 3 weeks.
Notice that the batter sits for 12 hours or more before you bake it. If you're like me and quickly skim (if at all) the directions, you may miss this--thus, I've bolded it. I've planned entire meals around a main dish that as I'm cooking I realize--oops, skimmed this one too fast and it'll take hours longer than I thought. Not fun.
With that said, try these out, they just might be worth the wait.
Love Much,
Kris
http://www.totalhealthyoga.com/
http://www.totalhealthyogaclasses.blogspot.com/
Today is the first day of the rest of your life!
Kris
http://www.totalhealthyoga.com/
http://www.totalhealthyogaclasses.blogspot.com/
Today is the first day of the rest of your life!
Wednesday, January 2, 2008
Poetic Cookbook
The Tassajara Bread Book has been part of my library for at least ten years. Upon first purchasing this gem with its gently textured cover and hand drawn sketches, I fell in love with the poetry that Edward Espe Brown, the author, offered in the opening of this cookbook.
His words, insights, and even the recipes themselves carry with them a humbleness and gratitude towards cooking, food, and life.
I'm amazed to say that only last week did I actually used one of the recipes (page 100, Bran Muffins) and it was scrumptious--not to mention helpful in getting things flowing (if you know what I mean!).
I intend to use many more recipes in the upcoming months. Next on the list is Corn Muffins (still on page 100--I figure why mess with a good thing).
Love Much,
Kris
http://www.totalhealthyoga.com/
http://www.totalhealthyogaclasses.blogspot.com/
Today is the first day of the rest of your life!
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